Ever have someone tell you that you “can’t” do something?

I met a guy last night who told me “singing was his passion.” Despite this, he was too scared to go after it as a profession. It made me realize just how many people don’t go after what they want. In my experience, there are two big reasons for this. One is that they’re like the guy-from-last-night who was too scared to do something bold. Then there are people who are ready to take action, but are convinced by others not to. Unfortunately, it’s often because people say it will be “too hard” or it “won’t work.”

So, I have a question for you: Is this you?

Have you ignored your passions or stopped doing something you loved because someone told you that you can’t do it?

You can do whatever the hell it is you want to do. It might take a long time with a lot of hard work. But you can make it work.

A lot of people like to go down the route of reason, as opposed to the other route of hard work and failure. You can’t really blame them. We’re taught to be successful, not to fail. What we don’t realize (and I talked about this last week) is that failure is a good thing. It usually teaches us something, which leads us to our eventual successes.

Here are some of my favorite ways to get on track when it comes to those difficult goals:

1) Remove or spend less time with people who doubt you. If you’re surrounded by negativity, it’s going to make you negative too. Continuing to listen to people who doubt you is going to make you doubt yourself.

2) Spend more time around inspiring people. Same thing works the other way around. If you’re around people who inspire you, it’s going to have an impact. Seeing them take risks will make you want to do the same. Figure out who those people are in your life right now. Then call them and invite them out for coffee.

[Waits for phone to start ringing]

That’s okay. I’m free tomorrow too.

3) Spend time doing personal development. I believe this one is a MUST for anyone pursuing a career in the arts. Your confidence will skyrocket. You’ll pick up small ways you can make changes for the better, while getting rid of those pesky, negative habits. Oh, and you’ll find you stop doubting yourself.

While I certainly hope that reading this has gotten you pumped up and inspired, I understand that it might not. In fact, it’s perfectly acceptable to read this and think, “This is just your opinion. Are there really others who follow this same mentality?”

[Guys in the back murmur in agreement]

I thought this might be the case. Lucky for you, I have a few friends who are pretty damn inspiring…

1) Katelyn Collins


Photo credit: David Noles

Katelyn is my dear friend and “partner for life” from Salem State University. She made the move to NYC to pursue acting almost immediately after graduation. In addition to her theatrical talents, she started making her own protein bars. In fact, she’s on a mission to start her own company! You can follow along Route 6 Protein Bar on facebook. Not only are they delicious (I’ve tried two), they’re made from natural sources and raw ingredients. In other words, not the garbage you get from convenience stores.


Photo credit: https://www.facebook.com/Route6ProteinBar

2) Nicole Beachaine


Photo credit: https://www.facebook.com/woodsybug

Another dear friend from Salem State University. A talented artist who loves to think outside the box. For example, she decided to start making art from guitars. GUITARS.


Photo credit: https://www.facebook.com/woodsybug

3) Courtney Rioux

ImagePhoto credit: http://courtneyriouxcoaching.com/about-me/

Anyone who reads my blog on a regular basis is no stranger to Courtney’s name. But when you’re working with a life coach who is also a Chicago actor, fitness enthusiast, and has received training from Tony Robbins and Dallas Travers, it’s hard not to share her talents!

Courtney is a life coach for actors. Her work involves positivity, goal setting, and personal development. I didn’t think having a personal development coach was necessary, especially with an actor’s budget. But I took advantage of one of her free clarity sessions (she offers four a month). The session went so well that I joined her accountability group later that day.

Oh, and remember how I mentioned being around inspiring people will inspire you? Her husband Scott just quit his job and started his own business. That’s two inspiring people, right there.

You’ll notice everyone here is pursuing a path that’s uncommon, making it much harder to achieve their goals. But they didn’t let the difficulty get in their way, and they’re certainly not listening to those doubters mentioned earlier. That’s pretty damn inspiring if you ask me.

What are some goals you’re holding back on that you can start pursuing? Is there a way to remove yourself from doubters and spend more time with people who will cheer you on during?

Find a way and then make it happen.

2 thoughts on “Ever have someone tell you that you “can’t” do something?

  1. I was going to be a smartass and be all, “What if that person who doubts you is yourself, Tony? Huh? What about THAT?” But then you covered that. So, as always, your post is incredibly helpful to me. I have no complaints. Thank you!

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