The Biggest Mistake You’re Making As You Chase Your Dream Job

First and foremost, please forgive me for making this sound like one of the hundreds of Buzzfeed articles that are bound to make it to your facebook newsfeed. That was not my intention. There are far too many of them flooding facebook as is.

(On an unrelated note, if someone from Buzzfeed reads this, please message me about any employment opportunities you may have coming up.)

Second, there’s a chance you might not be making this “biggest mistake.” If that’s the case, you’re much smarter than me. Or you’re friends with Courtney Rioux. Courtney has presented this concept to me multiple times. While I can’t remember where I first heard it, I know I definitely have heard it from her the most. I have her to thank for helping me learn this.Image

Guys! A picture of me and Courtney does exist…we’re just not speaking. Clearly we were fighting that day. Actually, this was from a workshop. She has another coming up on May 29th! Talk to me if you wanna come! (Photo credit:

Okay. There’s a rumor going around that I want to stop right now. Whether you’re pursuing a career in the arts, or you’re working your way to be CEO of your company, you’re on a long and tough journey. The problem that we face (especially for those in the arts) is that a lot of this journey can be unpleasant. During this time, I personally like to use the phrase “I’ll be happy once I’ve gotten there.”

There are two problems with this: 1) We’re creating a limiting belief that we have to stay unhappy as we go on our journey. 2) Who is to say that we’re going to be happy once we get there? There’s an incredible successful Beachbody coach who is one of the best in the business. And by successful, I mean very successful. And rich. Yet he posted on facebook today about how caught himself feel discouraged recently when it came to his goals! EVEN THOUGH HE’S SUCCESSFUL. (And rich.)

So how do we stay happy during the journey?


 Being friends with Nicole and Nate helps. But seriously, how can you NOT be happy around that beard?

I’m learning that it’s different for everyone. Here are some tips I’ve found helpful:

-Accept instead of resist. When you encounter an obstacle, try accepting the situation for what it is. If you’re me, you probably yell, swear, and then think about whether or not it’s too early to start drinking. Instead, try the Barney Stinson method and focus on what you can do to move forward.

-Allow yourself to fail. Far too often, I catch myself trying to be perfect. If this is you, stop now. There is no such thing as being perfect. The goal is progress. Not perfection.

-Give yourself a “cheat” day. We use this term a lot in the health and fitness industry. It refers to the day you get to have an unhealthy meal (assuming you’ve been healthy the rest of the week). It makes us want to work harder during the week, knowing that there’s a reward coming up. Same goes for chasing your goals. Give yourself a day off. For me, this is usually a night out with friends.


Miss these guys! (Photo credit: Amy Hunt. And Tommy Martin. We’ll throw Dylan’s name in there too, so he doesn’t feel left out.) 

When all else fails:

-Yell, swear, and then think if it’s too early to start drinking. If it’s not, start drinking, give me a drunk dial, and tell me how much you love my blog.

Seriously. I love drunk dials.

Go chase your dreams, friends. And make sure to be HAPPY as you do!

(I literally just found this on youtube. It happened at Salem State University, my alma mater, last week at commencement. I don’t know who took the video or when this was during the ceremony. But it brought HUGE smile to my face!)

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