Feeling Stuck? Keep These 3 Things in Mind

Feeling stuck?

Sorry. Can’t help you. Wouldn’t know anything about that.

….aren’t I funny? 😉

You’re talking to the king of feeling stuck.  Allow me to help.

It’s normal to feel stuck.

Eric Thomas says you’re either going through a storm, in a storm, or coming out of a storm.  I personally don’t recommend this exact mindset. It gives off a “things are always going to suck” approach. This is only the case if you believe it. Brian Tracy says, “You get what you think about most of the time.”

I digress. Obstacles are normal and they’re going to happen. Stop comparing yourself to friends on facebook who are reaching the goals that you’re not. Social media tends to share our “highlight reel.” Good times with friends, successful careers, etc.

You’re on your own path. And you’re doing great. Remember that and stay positive.

It’s not personal.

Anytime we hit a roadblock, it can get personal pretty quick. In his book, “Failing Forward,” John Maxwell teaches us to remove the word “you” from failure. Instead of putting energy into kicking yourself, take a step back. See this from an outside perspective. This makes the roadblock a problem to solve, not a personal issue.

Darren Hardy (who emails me regularly) says to see failure as a good thing. For some of you, this might be a hard concept to grasp. If that’s the case, perhaps it’s time to reevaluate how you spend your time. I could write a whole new post on this, but in a nutshell, here’s what to do: Associate yourself with positive people and read personal development. I can’t tell you how much this has changed my life. If you don’t believe me, feel free to check my narcissistic blog posts from a couple years ago.

Failure is feedback. It’s not personal.

Take a break

Confession: This is one of my struggle areas.

I have a reputation for exhausting my brain over my problem areas. Thanks to Brian Tracy, I’ve gotten better. “Whenever you ‘go into the silence’ and listen to the still, small voice within you, you begin to hear the whispering of your superconscious mind.”  (From his book Goals!) 

When we’re calm and relaxed, we’re more open to hearing the answers that we’ve been searching for to overcome our problem. Here’s what’s really cool: When we step back and take a break from our problem, our subconscious mind is still working. It knows it’s there. It knows it needs to be solved. It’s doing the work for us. Still mind boggling to me, but I won’t argue with it. So relax! Realize that this walk you’re taking around Wrigley Field is actually helping your problem.

…that was also for me.

To recap:  It’s normal. It’s not you. It’s okay to take a break. Relax. Enjoy life regardless of what’s going on. Enjoy the fact that the leaves are about to change. Then keep on being the awesome person that you are.

Go get ‘em 🙂


Your Crazy, Awesome Life is Waiting. Stop Letting It Sit There.

I have a love-hate relationship with the phrase “crazy, awesome life.”

I like how it forces us to envision a life that’s fun and exciting. Perhaps prior to hearing this phrase, we settled for a vision of “Well that would be nice, but this is reality.”

Here’s what I dislike about it: It’s cliché. It sounds silly and almost impossible. Or if we look at it from another angle, it implies that it’s a life full of riches and fame. Spoiler alert: Money and success isn’t enough for happiness. Ask the guy who created Minecraft how that turned out.

I use the phrase nonetheless. I use it because it makes you envision an awesome life: where you want, with the people you want, and best of all – doing what you want.

“Great. You want me to be happy. How am I supposed to do that when I have [a damn good reason relating to finances, with an emphasis on how difficult it is to obtain a dream job]?”

I’m glad you asked.

Unfortunately, it’s not considered normal to live a crazy, awesome life. Most people don’t go after this. It seems impossible. It’s too hard. What will others think?

It all comes down to  yourmindset.

Start treating your brain like you would a fine tuned athlete. (I was going to use Tom Brady, but realized many of my Chicago friends would likely not fare well in this scenario). You want to live a crazy, awesome life? Start fueling your brain with the best stuff you can get your hands on.

A lot of us operate under what’s called a fixed mindset. I was a big offender of this: “What’s that? A great piece of advice that I could use for my acting career? Oh no. I took a class with [someone who nobody has heard of in Chicago] when I was younger and that goes against what they said. I know you have a great agent that I would kill for, but I’m gonna stick with what I know…” Thanks to Courtney Rioux, personal development changed that. It allows us to expand our mindset while learning new insights which push us to do things we wouldn’t otherwise consider.

So. There’s a Ted Talk titled “Why I Stopped Watching Porn.” It got my attention.

Ran Gavrieli shares a funny story (starts at 6:10): He watched about twenty minutes of a show whose set up was similar to American Idol. He couldn’t stand it. He left to take a shower. After a good ten minutes in the shower, he noticed that he was seriously questioning: “What would I have sung for the audition?”

This was from a mere twenty minutes of television.

He didn’t like the show. He doesn’t have any musical ambitions. This is not part of his crazy, awesome life. Yet he caught himself dwelling on this without even realizing.

What do you feed your own mind with on a regular basis? Is it with reality television with lots of drama? Is it with the news that reports more crime and layoffs than it does inspiring stories?
Here’s the bottom line: You want to accomplish those big goals you’ve been talking about? Start being allergic to average. Fill your brain with positive, inspirational and big ideas. Hangout with successful people. Don’t spend twenty minutes with anyone who is going to try and tell you that your dreams and goals are stupid.

I might know you. I might not. Your goals are not stupid.

Regardless of your upbringing, you deserve to live an amazing life. If you can’t do it for you, do it for the people you love. If you really love them, they’re probably going to spend a lot of time around you. Don’t you want to be that positive source of inspiration to help them do the same?

It’s September. Let’s kick ass this month. Go get ‘em guys.