Well…this is awkward….

…I didn’t write a new post for this week.

Fortunately there’s a post I wrote last November that really resonates with me this week – “How to stay positive (and sane) when you’re sick. Again.”

….yup 🙂

See y’all next week!

What happened: Woke up with a dry throat. Woke up feeling like I barely slept, despite getting extra sleep that night. Woke up realizing, “Oh dear. I might be sick. (Again.)”

Despite this, I didn’t deter from my morning routine, complete with meditation and exercise. I’d keep an eye on whether or not I still felt dehydrated throughout my workout. If I felt like I was still dehydrated despite having chugged a bunch of water – I’d have my answer. 

What happened next: I got my answer. (It wasn’t what I wanted.) 

What usually happens then: I get angry. I throw a pity party, wondering things like “Why me?” and “How the hell am I supposed to get through the next few days?” 

What happened instead: “Ah. Damn. That’s not what I wanted…..Alright then.” 

Why: Because the combination of meditation and personal development books make you a superhuman….or at least a more positive one.

 

The book I’ve been reading is“The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle.  With meditation, a common practice is to simply notice thoughts as they come and go. What we tend to do, as Eckhart shares, is that we create an identity with the thought. Then the ego takes control, and all hell breaks lose. While I didn’t want to be sick this week, I also didn’t want to fall into my usual pattern of “This is awful and nothing will ever be okay!” Because…well, that’s not true, is it? 

I stopped trying to predict the future. I avoided worrying about whether or not I’d still be sick by the end of the week, where I knew I was going to be really busy. I just focused on acknowledging my thoughts. I knew my fears were there. But I figured if I’m going to be sick, I might as well take something away from this crappy situation. 

Besides…..

I’m never sick for longer than a week 

I didn’t have any big parties or fun events I was going to have to “power through”

I was so glad I wasn’t sick on Thanksgiving! 

A couple of weeks from now – everything will be okay and this will just be another blip on the radar.

Let’s put this into practical thinking: Right now I’m able to look at this from an empowering perspective. But what about when I’m sick, I’m at work, a customer is really bothering me, and I have a few other things on the agenda that day….how will I view things then? Will I still be “Mr. Positive” and be able to stay present and optimistic?? 

At the time of writing this, I’m just starting to feel the initial stages of the sickness. It’s at this point where I tend to think, “Oh, this isn’t that bad…” and then by either tonight or tomorrow morning, I’ll be like, “NOOOOPE THIS IS TERRIBLE!” So all this is to say that it’s much easier for me to view my situation from a positive place today. Tomorrow and the day after? I can’t say for certain, but there’s a good chance I won’t be all smiles and sunshine. 

If you’re someone looking to start embracing this attitude, but have those normal doubts of “What happens when _____ happens and I stop being happy?” I get it. I’m right there with you. I also think this is a great time to take another page out of “The Power of Now” and get present and work on just noticing the thoughts as they come. I personally love how Eckhart views the future. Paraphrased, he says, “You cannot cope with future fear because it doesn’t exist. Instead, tune into the present moment. That’s all we ever have to cope with.” 

I’m still working on this myself, but I’ll let you know how it goes. In the meantime, let me know if this has helped you: What’s an area of your life where you can apply this? Have you applied this before? Leave a comment below or shoot me a tweet and let me know. 

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When all else fails, get some of Grandpa’s honey that he helps make himself with a nice guy named Chuck. It’s good stuff!  

Have a great (and healthy) week, my friends. 

Let’s go get ‘em. 

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Thanks for reading!

By the way, I’m Tony. I live in Chicago. (Duh.) I’m an actor and blogger living right up the street from Wrigley Field. 

My blog is here to help others take control and live a more authentically positive life on their terms. Since working with a coach and learning more about personal development, I’ve started sharing my learnings with others. (I have a lot…)

If we’ve never meet – shoot me a tweet!  Would love to hear how you found this 🙂 

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Find Your ‘Why’ That Makes You Cry

Ever notice how some of your goals are accomplished quicker than others? Whether we’re busy or just not putting in the time we know we should, some goals get left to the side. Sure, we can pick them back up anytime. But how do we pick them up and stay consistent?

Recently I watched a fantastic presentation that covered a bunch of topics. One of the presenters, Tarah Marie Carr, talked about finding your “why.” She talked about how hard she worked on her business in order to support her family. Because of this strong “why,” her husband was able to return home from serving overseas.

I love her story. Here’s mine:

(Spoiler alert: It’s about food. Not about being in love. Unless you count my passion for red wine and snacks.)  

I have a strong interest in nutrition. This turned up a few notches when I became a health and fitness accountability coach. I got a meal plan, portion sized containers, plus a formula explaining how many containers I could eat for each food group. (You may have heard me talk about this before.)

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Despite this incredible plan, I still struggled with cravings. I’d go half the week eating clean, then erase my results each time I got tired and stressed. If I couldn’t sleep, I went straight for the kitchen. If I was really stressed, alcohol was inevitable. My goal of getting a six pack was always short lived at best.

Fast forward to last month: I was reading a great book called “Eat That Frog” by Brian Tracy. He discusses different options to be more quick and efficient with your goals. One chapter discusses nutrition. Tracy explains that in order to have the most energy to accomplish our goals, we need to be putting healthy foods into our bodies.

“Aha!”

I started to focus on what negative consequences might happen if I decided to go for the unhealthy options (which I desperately wanted). If I caved and kept going for cookies (seriously, love cookies) I’d feel guilty, upset, and tired. This kept me from being my best self. If I’m not my best self, I can’t get my work done. Translation: “Sorry goals. You’ll have to wait another day.”

Since I quit waiting tables, I’ve had to apply to odd jobs here and there to pay the bills. I don’t enjoy them. Each time I apply for a gig – even if it’s just for a day – I start to feel depressed.

And that’s my why.

I’m done working jobs I don’t like. I’m tired of spending my time learning about products or companies I don’t have a passion for. Each time I start to crave something I know I shouldn’t be eating, I think about these jobs. I think about how wonderful it’s going to be when all of my income comes solely from acting, writing, and fitness. Working on my goals involves lots of time and energy. I can’t tackle all of these if I’m not being healthy. Snacks can wait. My goals can’t.

Sound silly? That’s okay. It is. But it works. Guess who’s showing off his six pack on his trip home this week?

(Oh man, this totally means I’m gonna have a love story to share!)

What’s your “why?” Care to share it with us? (Do it. I promise it helps.)