The Facebook Status That was Far Too Long to Post

How am I feeling, Facebook? You know…I’m not quite sure. 

You see Facebook….

*Facebook IMMEDIATELY begins grumbling about how “most people just make a status and then leave without making a big deal out of it”

Oh Facebook….you’re cute. And you clearly don’t know me. I don’t do anything without making a big deal. And come now…I could be talking politics….

You see Facebook…

I’ve been having this rough stretch since I found myself getting sick. It was just a nagging cold, but eventually it passed. However, I kept getting lingering symptoms every time I worked out. As you’re undoubtedly aware from my plethora of selfies, you know that my workouts are important to me. For whatever reason, appearance has been a big deal to me. I grew up being a skinny guy, not really caring about how I looked. I figured, it is what it is. Having muscles? That’d be nice. But at least I’m not overweight…

You know how you have those nightmares and suddenly something is TERRIBLY wrong? You wake up and your head is half shaven, or one of your eye brows has fallen off, or half of your teeth aren’t there anymore? For me, it was waking up and suddently I’m 100 lbs heavier. (And sometimes the teeth thing.) I always had this fear about looking different than the guy whom I’m used to seeing in the mirror. I don’t know WHY I have this fear because – honestly? Whenever people I know DO gain weight, I think about it for a minute…and then go back to thinking about myself and my own “flaws.” We all do it. I know I don’t need to impress anyone. Hell, if I let lose a little more, had more fun, and didn’t pay so much darn attention to my amaaaazing nutrition….I think I’d be a little more appealing to others. I’d be more relatable for one. And I’d also be happier because I’d be loser and more confident….ahhhh confidence…

 THAT’S thing, Facebook: I’m not confident when I deviate from my nutrition plan. I notice those teeny, tiny, incremental gains in my face and stomach and it bugs the hell out of me. I can’t stand it. Does anyone else notice? Oh hell no. Please, I came back from a vacation three years ago and practically couldn’t put on my jeans (this was a first for me) and no one noticed. Those quedillas I had last night? No one is going to care. 

But I do. And I’m figuring that out. 

So I guess what I’m trying to say, Facebook, is that there’s a LOT right now I’m trying to figure out. I’m trying to figure out how to be happy. I want to be able to not be so strict with food, with goals, with money, and with life. I want to be able to fuck up and not give a damn. I want to be able to have TWO cheat nights in a row, not be able to do my “perfect” workouts, and then go on to know for 100% certain that I’ll be able to get back on track.

Sounds pretty lofty, huh? 

Lightbulb: I just realized – it’s incredibly possible. I just need to make the decision. 

Wow. What the hell did we do before you, Facebook? 

*Facebook expresses that while it actually tends to cause more people stress than happiness and wishes people would, in fact, learn to moderate its usage more* 

Ah. Fair enough. In any case….thank you. I really appreciate having a place to share all this. 

Let’s go get ‘em, yeah? (Sorry. That’s a thing I do on my blog. And in fact…that’s where I’m gonna post this, but will totally share a link I swear.) 

PS – Oh, and you know the whole showing me football scores when it’s clearly still baseball season? Like I said….you really don’t know me


How I Stay Positive When Things Are Negative


It’s easy to get caught up in the hype of negativity following a tragic event. As someone who focuses on positivity and sharing that message with others, it’s challenging to make others happy when many are sad or angry.

Allow me to share some #TonyTips on how to avoid falling into a hole of negativity hole.

Avoid the news

Don’t won’t watch it. Don’t listen to it. Once you’ve been informed – you’re informed. No need to immerse yourself in details that don’t change the situation or allow you to do anything about it. Most of the time, you don’t need updates. You don’t need stories on the upbringing of the people who caused the tragedy.

This doesn’t mean you don’t care. In fact, it’s okay to give yourself days or times to feel sad about it. When you’re spending downtime on a break from work on on your way home to see family, that’s often not the time you want to feel sad or angry.

Instead, wait for the stories of warmth that come from the situation. Or learn more about the people it’s affecting. You can pick up details this way, plus learn ways to help. Or perhaps you’ll hear about others who are doing taking things in their own hands to help. Reading stories like this are bound to put you in a better mood.

Hide people on facebook

I do this. A lot. (Sorry guys).

I’ve shared before how I think we’re all doing social media “wrong.” Seeing comments about how terrible the world is takes a toll on us after a while. Investing too much time into a story about a terrible person does the same. Reading angry rants and opinions? Well that’s not going to do anyone any good. The more we limit the amount of negative opinions, the better our day is going to go.

Focus on the positives results from the negatives

A year and a half ago, one of my childhood friends passed away. It was a sad week, and has had sad times that have followed. Yet from this situation, an out pour of love and support have come towards the family. It’s also affected my own life in a lot of positive ways.

This doesn’t mean I’m glad it happened. Rather, I’m choosing to focus on the good that’s come from it. And yes, I still have times I’m sad. Thinking positive allows you to focus on the good – when you’re ready for it.


Below is a picture and post I made on facebook earlier this week:


Being positive doesn’t mean being in denial.

Bad things happen. Bad people exist. Bad situations will occur.

Being positive means you still believe in good despite those things.

And tonight when I saw a pride flag hanging up from a church, I saw another example of how good things are happening. Doesn’t mean bad things aren’t. But I like to focus on the good as we work toward fixing the bad.


Go get ’em, friends.


Something to Consider Before Posting on Facebook

On a scale of 1-10, how cranky are you on a regular basis? If you’re not sure, take a quick look at your facebook page.


I regret to inform everyone that I no longer drink Miller High Life. It just made us all more cranky. 

I used to be a very negative person. I was happy (or at least I thought I was). But I was constantly looking for the negative. And ohhhh boy, did I find it!

Here’s a secret that you might not know: You find exactly what you’re looking for. If you’re in a bad mood, you’re going to find every tiny thing that’s negative with your day. When you’re in a good mood, same thing! You’re much more likely to notice the sunshine and smiling faces that you’re surrounded by.

Sound familiar? I’ve talked about this before =)

Now let’s go back to facebook: Ever notice how whenever there’s snowy weather, our news feeds are packed with negativity? The following may or may not be real statuses that I read last week:

-So happy to see that it’s snowing in May! #not #thankschicago

-Are you KIDDING me?!

-WTF? I thought we were done with this #movingtoLA

-Can’t believe it’s snowing in May! Can it just be Monday already so we can read Tony’s blog?”

Okay maybe some of these aren’t real. But you get the idea.

Story time! This past weekend at work, one of my coworkers Andrew was serving a couple their breakfast. (UPDATE: Andrew is one of those coworkers that everyone should have. And you’re lucky if you get him as your server). Upon receiving their food, the gentleman decided he wanted to add a side of bacon to his order. After learning how long this would take, he changed his mind and canceled the order (after Andrew had already rang it in, mind you). When it came time for the check, the gentleman informed Andrew that he was unhappy with “how he handled the situation” and said his bacon should have come out anyway.


Me and some of my coworkers. When we’re all together (and not working), we’re usually all smiles. 

We’re going to ignore the fact that there are many problems with this gentleman (along with the fact that I am fuming with rage as I recall this story.) Instead we’ll focus on his comments when it came time from the check: What was he hoping to gain when he pointed out how unhappy he was? A discount? Maybe. But I’m willing to bet he was just upset and thought that it was absolutely necessary to express himself to my coworker.

Back to facebook again: When we post negative statuses, what exactly are we hoping to achieve? Most of the time, it’s the same thing the bacon-less customer wanted: To express ourselves. Yes, we’re allowed to do this. Yes, it’s “our facebook and we can post whatever we want.” (Drink if you’ve heard this before. Finish your drink if you’ve said it yourself.) But ask yourself this – If it’s something negative, is it really worth it?

On another note, none of those statuses that I posted above were real. In fact, I don’t see as many negative statuses anymore. They’re mainly hidden from my feed.


NO! TONY! PUT US BACK IN YOUR NEWS FEED! (Photo credit: Factory Theater)


Have a positive week, friends. Regardless of the weather =)