Forgive me, friends.
I’m sick again.
But it’s Thursday. And we blog on Thursdays.
And while I originally intended to do a re-post of an old blog – I had some insights yesterday morning that I couldn’t not share.
That said…I’m a bit delirious. So forgive my typos, paraphrasing, and part of this blog that just don’t make sense….#notperfect #okayfineidoallthatanyway
Much to my chagrin, I showed up at work today. It was a short shift and I felt bad calling off. So I hoped on the train this morning, feeling absolutely terrible, and dreading the entire (short day).
Spoiler: It wasn’t as bad as I thought.
Other spoiler: I learned a lot today. But here are my three biggest takeaways.
Trust that others will be able to figure things out – without you.
I arrived at work to find that – despite the originally busy schedule – it was actually the opposite. It was such a low key day that I ended up having fewer responsibilities than I was supposed to have. In fact, I’ll go ahead and say that I got paid to sip coffee and basically observe for the day where I was originally supposed to be in the field. It was helpful – especially considering I’ll work more shifts like these in the future and now I’ll be better prepared.
That said, I was on the verge of calling off the night before. But to call off so late? That would be mean to them – right? They wouldn’t be able to complete their day – right?
…wrong. It would have been okay.
The next time you find yourself stressing out about putting yourself first, ask – Will they be able to figure things out? This won’t always be a resounding “yes.” But you might find yourself surprised to find the times when it is.
Just when you have every bit of evidence to believe that something will suck – get ready to be surprised.
Again, this won’t apply every single time.
Yet, this has been a recurring theme for me. Getting sick and worrying I won’t recover by a certain date for a big event? I end up being fine. Or I end up pushing through better than I thought. Or sometimes I’ll be in a terrible mood on my way to a day job shift – and then I get a surprisingly nice boss for the day and get to go home early. You get the point. There are often surprises that I couldn’t possibly have planned for. So allow yourself those surprises when things look like they’re going to be terrible.
You’re probably doing better than you think .
As soon as I got the news at work that I was going to be observing? My headache went away….okay, not entirely. And it came back. But in that moment? I felt like the ibuprofen I took hours again had just kicked in. (And for all I know – it did.) It was like magic the way my mood just lifted. And yet, nothing changed except I got some good news that meant my day was going to be easier.
The next time you find yourself stressed – ask yourself, “What would make me the happiest right now?” Allow yourself to go there for a minute or two. Really feel it. Then notice if any of your symptoms went away. It doesn’t mean you won’t get stressed or feel sick again when you come “back to reality.” But at the very least, recognize that you’re probably doing better than you think.
I’ll admit, when I’m sick or really stressed out, it’s very hard for me to get to this positive place of recognition that I’m better than I am. Even though I’ve learned this theme time and time again, I still find it exceptionally challenging to get out of my negative funk focusing on how I’m going to feel sick/stressed/like death forever. I know it’s not true…and yet? It’s really hard in the moment. So go easy on yourself if this one doesn’t work right away.
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Alright friends. I have a lot of food to eat…..I don’t know about all you crazy folk who don’t eat when you’re sick….but me? Oh my goodness, I eat twice as much…..and please tweet me so I know I’m not alone in this…
Let’s go get ’em. (And bring some food.)
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By the way, I’m Tony. I live in Chicago. (Duh.) I’m an actor and blogger living right up the street from Wrigley Field.
My blog is here to help others take control and live a more authentically positive life on their terms. Since working with a coach and learning more about personal development, I’ve started sharing my learnings with others. (I have a lot…)