Guest Post by Ali McGarel – “Being Uncomfortable”

Dear LA, 

If you’re going to keep stealing my friends, you better take care of them. 

But also – know that you’ve got some good ones coming to you. Like Ali McGarel. (Click here for her website!

Ali is an actress in Chicago (soon to be Chicago) and just started writing a blog – and it’s very much Tony Rossi approved. Enjoy 🙂 

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Being Uncomfortable

by Ali McGarel 

Hi, I’m Ali. I’m an actress best known for playing young roles with complexity. I enjoy the weird, the quirky, the loner, the bubbly, the–unique! I’ve performed in several films and web series and also find fulfillment in creating my own work. I’m the co-owner of A Ginger & A Brunette Productions, and created the web series “That Moment When…”. When not performing, you can find me being a badass barista, rapping to Childish Gambino, and obsessing over Britney Spears (once a stan, always a stan). 

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I recently got promoted as a Shift Manager at my work (#Starbucks #tobeapartner), and I’m in that really weird transitional period where I’m not sure what the hell I’m doing yet. And it gives me anxiety. I’ve been wishing I could just be a barista again, so I could go to work on autopilot. So work would be easy. So I wouldn’t feel uncomfy.

I think a lot of us live our lives on autopilot. And it makes sense. We love what’s familiar. We love being comfortable. But is that comfortability taking us where we want to go in life?

I WANT to be a Shift Manager. I want that raise. I want that higher sense of responsibility. And that in-between phase of being uncomfy is necessary to get me there. Any change in your life, big or small, requires some state of uncertainty. No one starts anything new knowing all of the answers. Trust me, if I could pass this phase and go straight to Pro SM with 2,000 closing shifts under my belt (shout out Matt), I would. But that’s just not how it works. I think back to when I first started out at Starbucks, bright eyed and bushy-tailed. I had anxiety then, too. I thought there was no way I’d be able to learn all of the drinks, let alone keep up when it’s busy. But look at me now! Morning Rush? No problem! All new things become familiar in time. And then they aren’t so scary anymore.

So think about the big change you want to make in your life. Right here, Right now.

Do you want to go back to school? Do you want to leave your current job? Do you want to open your own business? Do you want to move across the country? Now think about what’s holding you back. Sure, maybe there’s some logistical reasons why you may refrain from taking action. But I’m willing to bet there’s also fear of the unknown.

But REMEMBER…all big, awesome changes happen on the other side of being uncomfortable. So instead of avoiding this feeling…maybe we should be CHASING it.

Think about ways you can chase being uncomfortable in your life. And then, once you’ve reached that new goal, become uncomfortable again.

Keep that process going until you’ve reached all of your wildest dreams.

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Newest episode (#19) of the Tony Rossi Show podcast is UP! 

By the way, I’m Tony. I live in Chicago. (Duh.) I’m an actor and podcaster living right up the street from Wrigley Field. 

My blog is here to help others take control and live a more authentically positive life on their terms. Since working with a coach and learning more about personal development, I’ve started sharing my learnings with others. (I have a lot…)

If we’ve never meet – shoot me a tweet!  Would love to hear how you found this 🙂You can also find me on facebook, instagramYouTube, or check out my actor website

Some Thoughts on Body Image.

I’m a skinny male…and I’m uncomfortable with my body right now.

First off – is it even acceptable for a man to be talking about body image? What about all the women who have it worse trying to fit into the mold that society tries to put us in? And if it IS okay for a man to be talking about this – what do we do when all we can focus on are the things we DON’T like about ourselves??


In episode #17, of the Tony Rossi Show podcast, we talk about the following….

-What do we do when we have a problem that we’re uncomfortable sharing because we know others have it worse than us?

-How are we supposed to focus on the positives when there’s so many negatives about ourselves we don’t like?

-And why the hell did you post an image of your belt loop with the #notperfect hashtag on your instagram earlier this week?!

We’ll get into it all. I promise.

Click here for the full episode! The Tony Rossi Show is about learning how to manage the inevitable challenges that life throws at us, and to better recognize that we’re all enough – regardless of where we are in life and career.

Let’s go get ’em, friends.

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Newest episode (#17) of the Tony Rossi Show podcast is UP! 

By the way, I’m Tony. I live in Chicago. (Duh.) I’m an actor and podcaster living right up the street from Wrigley Field. 

My blog is here to help others take control and live a more authentically positive life on their terms. Since working with a coach and learning more about personal development, I’ve started sharing my learnings with others. (I have a lot…)

If we’ve never meet – shoot me a tweet!  Would love to hear how you found this 🙂You can also find me on facebook, instagramYouTube, or check out my actor website

My favorite advice I learned from Heather…

“You don’t have to validate your passion.” –Heather Hiatt 

Heather is a working actor and Gallup certified CliftonStrengths coach. She’s also the founder of The Magnetic Actor Method which teaches actors to believe in themselves again, stop overthinking and nail it on the first take.

She and I got a chance to talk on the Tony Rossi Show podcast and I learned a lot about Heather and how she thinks. Some favorite themes included…

-How actors can start believing in themselves again

-Why you SHOULD tell everyone you’re an actor when you’re asked “So what do you do?”

-And my favorite: We don’t have to validate our passions. 

Check out the full episode here. And to view more episodes on the Tony Rossi Show, check it out on iTunes!

You can learn more about Heather on her actor website, Magnetic Actor website, or follow her on instagram!

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Newest episode (#16) of the Tony Rossi Show podcast is UP! 

By the way, I’m Tony. I live in Chicago. (Duh.) I’m an actor and podcaster living right up the street from Wrigley Field. 

My blog is here to help others take control and live a more authentically positive life on their terms. Since working with a coach and learning more about personal development, I’ve started sharing my learnings with others. (I have a lot…)

If we’ve never meet – shoot me a tweet!  Would love to hear how you found this 🙂You can also find me on facebook, instagramYouTube, or check out my actor website